(In a prior Post, “Things We Have Observed from Counseling Others For 25 Years," we indicated that we would be sharing some things that we had observed that were common to many individuals or couples. This Writing addresses one of those items. If you would like to read our initial Post mentioned above, you can go to https://bit.ly/4vQuXJ1. The Presence of Toxic Shame Over the course of counseling hundreds of people over the years, we have observed that virtually all peopl

In our previous blog post we shared how many people we have seen over our 25 years of counseling have had misunderstandings on the nature of God. We also shared how this can develop and some resources that might be helpful in dealing with this important issue. A Little Background We attend NewSpring Church in Greenville, SC, one of 13 NewSpring campuses across South Carolina. All messages are broadcast from the Anderson campus and the current focus is on the Book of Romans. B

(In a prior Post, “Things We Have Observed from Counseling Others For 25 Years," we indicated that we would be sharing some things that we had observed that were common to many individuals or couples. This writing addresses one of those items. If you would like to read our initial Post mentioned above, you can go HERE.) Understanding the Nature of God Over the course of counseling hundreds of people, we have observed that many people do not “see God clearly” as they process

(In a prior Post, “Things We Have Observed from Counseling Others For 25 Years," we indicated that we would be sharing some things that we had observed that were common to many individuals or couples. This writing addresses one of those items. If you would like to read our initial Post mentioned above, you can go HERE.) The Importance of Powerful Moments of Connection Over the course of counseling hundreds of people, we have observed that there is often a point in the proces

We are very grateful and honored that God allowed us to counsel individuals and couples over the course of 25 years. As many of you know, we had been teaching students and directing Respiratory Care and Dental Hygiene programs for 18 years before the major career changes we made in 1992. Although people came to us for various concerns, there were things that were common to many. We thought that it might be helpful to share some of these common struggles or issues to help yo

This sounds like a very silly, even ridiculous, question. If I drop a glass plate and it breaks into many pieces, how in the world can it be considered “whole?” It can’t. But we’re not talking about glass plates—we’re talking about our hearts and our emotions—particularly how we respond to what we call “Godly Brokenness.” What is Godly Brokenness? Godly brokenness is the humble surrender of a heart that recognizes its need for God and allows Him to transform weakness, sin,

[NOTE: Sheri Morgan, a good friend of ours and one of our "Spiritual Daughters," was sharing some things she was doing with her flowers. After hearing this, we thought it was very similar to the process that we experience in our walk with God. We asked her if she would write it down and this is what you're reading here. Thank you Sheri!] --------------------- My beautiful hanging pansies . . Or so I thought. Full and vibrant on top. So, I did what I didn't want to do . .

[NOTE: We published this blog post back in 2021 and we were recently reminded of this powerful song and felt like we were to post it again.] A friend of ours, Brian Morykon, recently shared a song that he had just released and we felt it was so powerful that we wanted to share it with all of you. This song is part of an album that he will be releasing in the future, and it focuses on what Mary Magdalene experienced when she came to the tomb of Jesus on Easter morning. It e

Many years ago, we heard these questions used by another ministry and it stayed with us throughout our years of counseling. Actually, these three questions can be applied in a variety of situations where a decision is needed. However, we found it to be most helpful when referring to issues of the heart and whether or not healing--especially relational healing--is needed. Let me (Jerry) make this more personal. A Personal Application - The Power of Fear (Shame) For as far b